If you are worried that your spouse is a narcissist, it can be difficult to know what to do. It can be difficult in the early stages of a relationship to distinguish whether your partner is narcissistic or if they are simply having a bad day. But over time, narcissist signs will become more apparent. Take this test to find out if your spouse is a narcissist. For some examples of narcissistic personality disorder, continue reading.

Signs Your Spouse Is A Narcissist

There are many different signs that can help your tell if your spouse is a narcissist. It is important to note that these isolated signs are not good indicators of a narcissistic personality and that narcissistic personality disorder can only be diagnosed by a mental health professional. That being said, if you notice these things, it will still be unpleasant. It may be a good idea to speak to a mental health professional if these signs become apparent and a lawyer if you are considering divorce.

They Constantly Put You Down

If you are dating or married to someone that puts you down constantly, they could be a narcissist. If you feel inadequate despite having great accomplishments and you feel that your spouse is constantly making negative comments about you, how you look, and your accomplishments, your spouse could be a narcissist. Your spouse will be very critical of you. They will make comments about your appearance including your hair, weight, and clothing. A narcissist will also be critical of your decisions, making you become doubtful of yourself. They will also be very critical of other people, especially people that they view themselves as superior to. 

They Are Manipulative

Another important sign of a narcissistic personality is that they will be very manipulative. They will use subtle threats to make you do what they want. You will feel like if you disagree with them or do something that they do not want then something bad will happen. It will feel like you are walking on eggshells around them. You will constantly be trying to make them happy and avoid them becoming angry or upset. 

You Will Feel Gaslighted

Another way to tell if your spouse is a narcissist is if you feel like your sense of reality is different since being with them. When you try to tell them that you didn’t like how something happened, they will tell you that it didn’t happen that way and that you remembered wrong. You will start to question if you are wrong or if you may be going crazy because you cannot remember things correctly.

Essentially, your spouse will lie to you and try to manipulate your reality. Your spouse will likely also try to do this with your family members and friends in order to isolate you from them. Another sign that your spouse may be a narcissist is that your family and friends will tell you that they do not like your spouse or they will be completely oblivious because they have been lied to by your spouse.

There Is A Huge Disconnect

One of the best ways to tell if your spouse is a narcissist is whether you feel connected to them. In a relationship with a narcissistic spouse, you will feel unloved. In the beginning of your relationship, they will make you feel special and like you are the greatest person ever. This is called love bombing. However, overtime they will start to withdraw as things get hard and they become difficult to rely on. Your needs will be ignored as well as the needs of any children that come out of your relationship. They will constantly be thinking about themselves and will hardly ever show interest in you or your life.

Is Your Spouse A Narcissist?

If your spouse is displaying narcissistic qualities, you may have considered getting divorced. Divorce can be difficult, but you do not have to go through it alone. We at Kaufman, Nichols, & Kaufman will be here to assist you and help you get through the litigation process as swiftly and easily as possible. For more information, feel free to reach out to us today.