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4 Ways To Tell If Your Spouse Is A Narcissist (Test)

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If you are worried that your spouse is a narcissist, it can be difficult to know what to do. It can be difficult in the early stages of a relationship to distinguish whether your partner is narcissistic or if they are simply having a bad day. But over time, narcissist signs will become more apparent. Take this test to find out if your spouse is a narcissist. For some examples of narcissistic personality disorder, continue reading.

Signs Your Spouse Is A Narcissist

There are many different signs that can help your tell if your spouse is a narcissist. It is important to note that these isolated signs are not good indicators of a narcissistic personality and that narcissistic personality disorder can only be diagnosed by a mental health professional. That being said, if you notice these things, it will still be unpleasant. It may be a good idea to speak to a mental health professional if these signs become apparent and a lawyer if you are considering divorce.

They Constantly Put You Down

If you are dating or married to someone that puts you down constantly, they could be a narcissist. If you feel inadequate despite having great accomplishments and you feel that your spouse is constantly making negative comments about you, how you look, and your accomplishments, your spouse could be a narcissist. Your spouse will be very critical of you. They will make comments about your appearance including your hair, weight, and clothing. A narcissist will also be critical of your decisions, making you become doubtful of yourself. They will also be very critical of other people, especially people that they view themselves as superior to. 

They Are Manipulative

Another important sign of a narcissistic personality is that they will be very manipulative. They will use subtle threats to make you do what they want. You will feel like if you disagree with them or do something that they do not want then something bad will happen. It will feel like you are walking on eggshells around them. You will constantly be trying to make them happy and avoid them becoming angry or upset. 

You Will Feel Gaslighted

Another way to tell if your spouse is a narcissist is if you feel like your sense of reality is different since being with them. When you try to tell them that you didn’t like how something happened, they will tell you that it didn’t happen that way and that you remembered wrong. You will start to question if you are wrong or if you may be going crazy because you cannot remember things correctly.

Essentially, your spouse will lie to you and try to manipulate your reality. Your spouse will likely also try to do this with your family members and friends in order to isolate you from them. Another sign that your spouse may be a narcissist is that your family and friends will tell you that they do not like your spouse or they will be completely oblivious because they have been lied to by your spouse.

There Is A Huge Disconnect

One of the best ways to tell if your spouse is a narcissist is whether you feel connected to them. In a relationship with a narcissistic spouse, you will feel unloved. In the beginning of your relationship, they will make you feel special and like you are the greatest person ever. This is called love bombing. However, overtime they will start to withdraw as things get hard and they become difficult to rely on. Your needs will be ignored as well as the needs of any children that come out of your relationship. They will constantly be thinking about themselves and will hardly ever show interest in you or your life.

Is Your Spouse A Narcissist?

If your spouse is displaying narcissistic qualities, you may have considered getting divorced. Divorce can be difficult, but you do not have to go through it alone. We at Kaufman, Nichols, & Kaufman will be here to assist you and help you get through the litigation process as swiftly and easily as possible. For more information, feel free to reach out to us today.

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Divorce Attorney

Divorce is an incredibly difficult process that unfortunately happens all too often. There are many reasons why people divorce and those reasons are often hard to imagine or even think about when you are married or in a relationship. However, it is important to understand these different grounds for divorce in order to recognize them ahead of time in a relationship and to protect yourself in the event of a divorce. In cases where divorce cannot be avoided, it is important to choose a attorney that can ensure that your case is settled fairly. The five most common reasons for divorce follow in no particular order.

5 Reasons for Divorce

1) Infidelity

The first most common reason why people choose to get divorced is because one spouse was unfaithful to the other. Infidelity is defined as having a sexual or strong emotional relationship with a person outside of one’s own marriage. In sixteen states, infidelity is punishable by the law. The law considers both sexual and emotional affairs adultery. 

If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, it is important to make certain considerations before pursuing a divorce. Firstly, you will want to carefully think about whether you think that your marriage could be reconciled and if you want that reconciliation. 

Second, if you have spoken with your spouse and do not think it would be possible to reconcile, you will need to speak to a lawyer. You will also need to decide whether you want to pursue an at fault or no-fault divorce. There would be a fault in this circumstance, but you would need to prove infidelity which could be difficult. It is also more expensive and takes time to pursue an at-fault divorce.

2) Irreconcilable Differences

Divorces often end due to the issue of irreconcilable differences. In legal jargon, when a couple cite irreconcilable differences as their grounds for divorce, it refers to the fact that the couple cannot get along with each other and no longer want to be married as a result. This is typically a no-fault form of divorce meaning that neither side is accusing the other of misconduct within the marriage.

3) Financial Issues

Another common reason why people get divorced is due to financial reasons. Some examples of financial problems that can and often do arise in marriage include:

  • Different views on money
  • Different spending habits
  • Major expenses causing stress
  • Hidden debt or gambling addictions
  • Stress from combining resources

Ways to decrease these issues include having very frank conversations about money before and after getting married, going to financial counseling and looking out for patterns in your spouse’s and your own money habits that may need to be changed.

4) Lack of Communication

Another large reason why couples get divorced is due to lack of communication. According to Huffpost, about 65% of divorces are due to miscommunication and inability to resolve conflict. Lack of communication includes couples being unable or unwilling to talk about hard things going on in their marriage, not validating or hearing the feelings of their spouse, never being on the same page, and arguing all the time without coming to an understanding.

5) Lack of Commitment

Being committed in a marriage means thinking about not only your own needs but also your spouse’s needs and taking care of them. In large decision making, spouses consult each other and try to turn to each other for support. Oftentimes, when lack of commitment happens in marriage, it is due to one or both spouses taking the other person for granted and/or growing apart instead of together. Lack of commitment can also lead to other marital issues including infidelity.

Have More Questions About Reasons for Divorce?

There may be times when divorce is simply unavoidable. When you realize this, it can be extremely difficult to know what to do next. In those times, we want to be a resource for you to find out what your legal rights are. Here at Kaufman, Nichols & Kaufman Attorneys At Law, we are ready to advise you on what to do as well as answer all the questions you have regarding your divorce. Contact us today. 

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