Divorce is an incredibly difficult process that unfortunately happens all too often. There are many reasons why people divorce and those reasons are often hard to imagine or even think about when you are married or in a relationship. However, it is important to understand these different grounds for divorce in order to recognize them ahead of time in a relationship and to protect yourself in the event of a divorce. In cases where divorce cannot be avoided, it is important to choose a attorney that can ensure that your case is settled fairly. The five most common reasons for divorce follow in no particular order.
The first most common reason why people choose to get divorced is because one spouse was unfaithful to the other. Infidelity is defined as having a sexual or strong emotional relationship with a person outside of one’s own marriage. In sixteen states, infidelity is punishable by the law. The law considers both sexual and emotional affairs adultery.
If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, it is important to make certain considerations before pursuing a divorce. Firstly, you will want to carefully think about whether you think that your marriage could be reconciled and if you want that reconciliation.
Second, if you have spoken with your spouse and do not think it would be possible to reconcile, you will need to speak to a lawyer. You will also need to decide whether you want to pursue an at fault or no-fault divorce. There would be a fault in this circumstance, but you would need to prove infidelity which could be difficult. It is also more expensive and takes time to pursue an at-fault divorce.
2) Irreconcilable Differences
Divorces often end due to the issue of irreconcilable differences. In legal jargon, when a couple cite irreconcilable differences as their grounds for divorce, it refers to the fact that the couple cannot get along with each other and no longer want to be married as a result. This is typically a no-fault form of divorce meaning that neither side is accusing the other of misconduct within the marriage.
3) Financial Issues
Another common reason why people get divorced is due to financial reasons. Some examples of financial problems that can and often do arise in marriage include:
- Different views on money
- Different spending habits
- Major expenses causing stress
- Hidden debt or gambling addictions
- Stress from combining resources
Ways to decrease these issues include having very frank conversations about money before and after getting married, going to financial counseling and looking out for patterns in your spouse’s and your own money habits that may need to be changed.
4) Lack of Communication
Another large reason why couples get divorced is due to lack of communication. According to Huffpost, about 65% of divorces are due to miscommunication and inability to resolve conflict. Lack of communication includes couples being unable or unwilling to talk about hard things going on in their marriage, not validating or hearing the feelings of their spouse, never being on the same page, and arguing all the time without coming to an understanding.
5) Lack of Commitment
Being committed in a marriage means thinking about not only your own needs but also your spouse’s needs and taking care of them. In large decision making, spouses consult each other and try to turn to each other for support. Oftentimes, when lack of commitment happens in marriage, it is due to one or both spouses taking the other person for granted and/or growing apart instead of together. Lack of commitment can also lead to other marital issues including infidelity.
Have More Questions About Reasons for Divorce?
There may be times when divorce is simply unavoidable. When you realize this, it can be extremely difficult to know what to do next. In those times, we want to be a resource for you to find out what your legal rights are. Here at Kaufman, Nichols & Kaufman Attorneys At Law, we are ready to advise you on what to do as well as answer all the questions you have regarding your divorce. Contact us today.