Table of Contents

• PDA And Intimacy Has Moved To The Backburner
• Forgetting Why You Married Your Partner In The First Place
• Finances Get Out Of Control
• Children Become More Important Than The Marriage
• Stress Over Demands And The Future
• Physical Illness
• Divorce Help From A Competent Legal Team

Thousands of people get married, but many of them end up divorced years or even months later. If this seems to be common in your circle, it’s because it is. 50% of marriages end in divorce, but there are many reasons why this can occur. Not all marriages are doomed to fail, but some of the reasons that the foundation crumbles can be spotted early on. 

Marriages fail because they are not treated with care and partners let resentment build up over the years. Let’s take a look at common reasons why marriages fail and if you can course-correct if you are experiencing this struggle in your marriage. 

PDA And Intimacy Has Moved To The Backburner

Couples who are full of PDA and prioritize intimacy early on in the relationship may start to lose it soon after the marriage license has been signed. Intimacy obviously will fluctuate over time, but letting all intimacy fall to the backburner of your life can be a common reason for divorce. 

Intimacy comes in many forms, so focusing on just one type and neglecting others can still lead to marriage problems. Spending time with your partner, making them feel loved, and setting aside time in your busy schedule for connection is important for a lasting relationship. 

Forgetting Why You Married Your Partner In The First Place

In the beginning of your marriage, you may have a list of reasons why you chose to marry your partner, but as time passes, couples may lose those initial reasons or forget why they fell in love with the person in the first place. It is important to continue to focus on the reasons you love your partner, finding new reasons to love them, and keeping your wedding vows in mind. Resentment and anger can build up in many couples, especially if you continue to hold on to all your grievances and remember these mistakes rather than the good things about your partner. 

Finances Get Out Of Control

Financial stress, job loss, or severe debt can be a strain on any marriage. Handling financial stress together as a couple can help you avoid damage to your relationship. Keeping financial problems from your spouse is another common reason why marriages fail. Married couples should communicate about large purchases, worries over finances, and learn how to budget in order to have a healthier marriage and remain financially free. 

For gambling or spending addictions, putting off talking to a spouse about these habits could put you in severe debt and cause you to lose your marriage in the process. Addictions are hard to break on your own, so seeking help and communicating before it is too late could save you lots of frustration down the road. 

Children Become More Important Than The Marriage

When children are added to the mix, our priorities often shift in a marriage, but in order for a good relationship to last, it needs work. Couples with kids often stop making the time for each other, instead focusing on work, kids’ schoolwork, nap times, and bedtime routines. No matter how long you have been married, making time for your spouse is important if you want to continue to have a healthy marriage. Kids that have happily married parents often feel more loved and supported as well. If your cup is full, you will be able to pour more into your children.  

Couples should set aside time for date nights, take a vacation without your kids, have dinner conversations after the kids fall asleep, or get a babysitter for a night without interruptions. 

Stress Over Demands And The Future

It is normal for many adults to feel stress over challenges and life transitions. Coping with change can be difficult and result in strain on a marriage, especially if you feel overwhelmed about family life, adult responsibilities, or parts of your marriage. Learning to communicate your feelings and ask for help in the right way can help keep your marriage intact, while still meeting all your responsibilities. 

Physical Illness

Unfortunately, a physical illness or terminal diagnosis can be another common reason marriages fail. Cancer diagnosis, chronic illnesses, or degenerative diseases may be hard for individuals to handle, especially if the illness will require them to constantly care for their partner. Watching someone in a vulnerable state can be extremely difficult, especially when you hold a lot of love for them. Partners with a major physical illness may struggle to maintain their marriage or may have mental blocks that change their personality. These and many other challenges can put strain on even the healthiest marriages, causing some couples to separate or file for divorce. 

Divorce Help From A Competent Legal Team

Marriages fail for a variety of reasons, some of which are out of our control or require a dissolution of the marriage. Kaufman, Nichols, and Kaufman offers quality legal advice and representation for divorce, family cases, criminal convictions, and more. 

Our legal experts can help you along the tumultuous journey, helping you to have a successful outcome. Working with a local lawyer gives you someone to lean on during these emotional and confusing times. There is so much involved in a divorce case that can make it hard for someone to handle on their own. Work with the lawyers at KNK to improve your life and future today.